observations
It’s interesting to note that people’s reactions are generally the same when they first find out that we are adopting. I would estimate that about 90% say, “Oh, I had a friend who couldn’t have kids so she and her husband decided to adopt. They were just about to get their kids and THEN THEY GOT PREGNANT!” I truely don’t understand why people say that. It’s almost like saying that if you try to adopt, it will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Maybe they are trying to encourage us . . . ? But the thing is, we have decided to adopt, not pursue a pregnancy. We can’t get pregnant. It is not possible. Yes, it would be a miracle, but it’s not a miracle we want. We want our 2 Colombian children.
Of course, I can’t say anything like that in the conversations. I just nod my head and smile and say, “Oh really? That’s great.” Then quickly change the subject.
allaboardthefailboat said,
August 20, 2008 at 11:29 am
I’ve gotten the same response from the small circle of people that I’ve told. It would be wonderful if it did happen, but come on… would I be considering this if I could conceive?
Allie
grandplans said,
August 20, 2008 at 3:04 pm
I’m glad you understand. I wondered if other people got the same kind of response. All the best on your journey!
Kathleen VanTol said,
August 20, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Adoption is a wonderful way to build a family, regardless of whether you can conceive or not. Every child deserves a loving family. I am glad that you have decided to provide that blessing for these two children. I think you are handling this in a very graceful way. It is like the people who have to tell pregnant women horror stories about labor and delivery, some people just can’t help themselves.
grandplans said,
August 20, 2008 at 6:40 pm
so true
renee said,
August 21, 2008 at 8:10 pm
And we want our two Columbian grandchildren! We love you!
mickey